Confrontation on eating

My son is my life. I love him to death, the only problem is that he has gained weight. I am afraid, that due to our family history, his weight might not go away as easy as it came.

When I try to talk to him about eating habits, he gets really frustrated and confrontational, almost like I am attacking him. I am trying to talk to him from a mom's point of view and the view of someone who has battled food.

He gets defensive and doesn't want to hear it, but he does.

I watch him, he is self-conscious, but also is just his quiet self. I don't want him to suffer like I did and I am completely at a loss on how to talk to him. I want him to be healthy and happy. I don't want him to go through what I have suffered with.

How do I confront him and talk to him without him getting so upset with me? I want him to understand that I am trying to help him.

Any suggestions for a mom in a corner... mentally...

Eat me out of house and home

My son is a growing boy who has become a teenager. He eats dinner, but he also munches constantly. Tonight, it was dinner, and then hot cocoa, then a cheese sandwich. He doesn't like his body image. Overweight runs in our family, but it doesn't phase him. Then my mom is no better. She makes cookies constantly and then has a fit when he eats them all... Then don't make them. No one in our house needs them. Makes me mad. Then she is the first to throw a fit!
Any suggestion on how to address this?

Talking to My Child About Obesity

Our family history is not the heathiest, to say the least. We have history of heart disease, high blood pressure, high cholesterol, diabetes, etc. etc. etc.

My son is tall and right now, very solid, for being 12 years old. The problem is, I want to make him realize that some of the things he eats are so bad for him. We don't eat out hardly at all - maybe two times a month, and then it's either for breakfast or Chinese, not fast food. Our family also has a bad history of being overweight. That is something that I have struggled with for MANY years. I am sorry to admit that I have been down the eating disorders road... both of them. It is something that is hard to live with and you never really get over it... there is no miracle "cure". My son is unhappy with his weight and he wants to diet, but I know he just needs to change his eating habits. I guess it all depends on how badly a 12 year old wants to change.